Happiness Challenge: Day 14

“The true measure of an individual is how they treat a person who can do them absolutely no good.” ~Ann Landers

Happiness and altruism are intimately linked in a positive feedbac21-day-challenge-day-14k loop – doing good is an essential ingredient to being happy, and happiness spurs kindness and generosity.

#ThoughtfulThursday Challenge: In the next 24 hours, give back to the greater good without any strings attached. Perhaps do something for someone and don’t tell anyone, or, at least for the day, try to let no one come to you without leaving happier. Tip: If you don’t think you have anything to give back, think again…the greatest gift you can give someone is your presence!

Little by little, a little becomes a lot. As Desmond Tutu puts it, “Do your little bit of good where you are, it is those little bits of good put all together that overwhelm the world.”

My ThoughtfulThursdayChallenge response:  Volunteering feels great!  Do something good for someone else to make them smile!  Do you get good service at a restaurant?  Do you have a coworker who makes you smile?  If so, let them know!  Show gratitude and Thanks for the friends/family in your life!  Pay it forward!  Has anyone given you something that you can’t repay with money but makes you feel good??  #livelifetothefullest!  #loveLife!  #beauthentic #hewalkswithyoualways

Happiness Challenge: Day 13

“I have a choice: Do I want to align with the GREATEST VISION OF MYSELF or Do I want to align with my EXCUSES?”  ~Debbie Ford21-day-challenge-day-13

#WellnessWednesday Challenge: When you mentally rehearse new healthy habits, you strengthen your ability to create them in your life. Identify images that align with accomplishing your goals and spend time visualizing them daily! Are you living by design or by default? Design the highest grandest vision possible for your life today. For the next 24 hours, live  “AS IF” this grand vision has already come true. Extra Challenge: Practice this “AS IF” mentality for the rest of the week, living “out of your imagination, not your history.” You become what you believe…


My Challenge response:  Today is day 6 of the beginning of a new chapter for me.  Every day I visualize finding myself again and being authentic to who I am.  Yesterday I went up to work surrounded by my friends and coworkers who make me happy and smile and accept me for me.  I did no work, I just visited.  Then a friend was in need of my help so I brought him to a safe place where he would be able to do what he needed in his head to heal.  I became an enabler by helping him, I realize that now.  But that is what I do and who I am, if someone is in trouble or asks for my help, I help.  I realize now that some people will take advantage of that so I have to be more careful.  I went to the VFW and volunteered with an amazing group of people called my Lions Club family and stuffed envelopes and laughed and had an amazing time with them for an hour and then went to my son’s band concert.  My son went out after with friends to celebrate an amazing concert, so I went back to the VFW to make sure my friends were safe down there and to finish up bar trivia with friends (because it’s fun and a great way to unwind).  It was an amazing day.  My friend from earlier ended up in trouble later but I chose not to go and help him and let him face the consequences of his actions, just like I am doing now with everything I have been through.  My health and my safety are my number one right now.  My “as if” is to continue to love life, to share my talents, to recognize if I am being taken advantage of because I help too much, to surround myself with GOOD people and to stop living in the past and look forward to an amazing future for this strong woman that I am and will continue to be.  #beauthentic #staytruetowhoyouare #Thankyou #lovelife #HeWalksWithYouAlways

Book Recommendation

20161025_070015I highly recommend this book, Sticks and Stones Exposed – The Power of our Words by Dave Weber … I was fortunate enough to see him present in person a few weeks back and his message is that bullying happens in all forms, whether it is physical or mental. Words hurt = bullying = mental abuse …. We have become a society of stone throwers and stick slingers. Koinonia – the coming together in a solidified oneness in an atmosphere of openness, honesty, trust, affirmation, support and encouragement. It’s not just the destination, it’s the trip. The 7 Me’s that I am:
1. The Me I think I am
2. The Me others see
3. The Me I used to be
4. The me I want to be
5. The me I really am
6. The me others try to make me
7. The me I try to project
#beauthentic and be yourself no matter what. Don’t let people try to change you because of their perceptions of who they think you are and don’t let them brainwash you into thinking you are someone you are not.
“Words of life and words of death are in the power of the tongue. Those who love it will eat its fruit” – King Solomon
I am learning each day that even I say things and do things without thinking about how the other person will take it, yet through building a relationship with the person and listening, there is so much more to people than what you see at first. Yes, first impressions are important, but what is more important is how they make you feel. Do you feel happy after meeting new people and getting to know them? I am humbled everyday by the stories I hear from some amazing people who have struggles just like me … we are not alone! We will be stronger because of the struggles He gives us and as long as we know He is by our side every step of the way. I was lost for years and am so grateful for this experience to realize the important things in life that I had pushed aside due to selfish desires … LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST! #beauthentic #stopbullying

Happiness Challenge: Day 12


“Dear Past, thank you for all the lessons. Dear Future, I am ready.”

If you never tasted a bad apple, you would not appreciate a good apple. You have to experience life to understand life. Be grateful for the profound teachings contained within times of great difficulty. When you review your life, where have you learned more compassion? Where have you learned more about yourself? Where has your heart grown wise–in just having good times, or going through difficulties? In fact, in some buddhist traditions, there is actually a prayer asking, “May I be given the appropriate difficulties so that my heart can truly open with compassion.”
#GratiTuesday Challenge: For the next 24 hours, practice gratitude for EVERYTHING, even difficult emotions, because of their potential to wake you up. When life is sweet today, say THANK YOU and celebrate. When life is bitter today, say THANK YOU and grow…
It is said that the “stance of happiness” is a deep appreciation for what is and eager anticipation of what’s next. Try this stance on today by regularly repeating this mantra: “For all that has been, THANKS. For all that will be, YES.”
My GratiTuesday Response:  Thank you for the path that you have taken me on that have led me to where I am today.  I am strong.  I am proud.  I am better because of this challenge you have given me.  Thank you for being friends with me and believing in me and knowing that I am who I am and you accept me for that and are not trying to change me.  Thank you to my strong network of supporters who are there for me in good times and bad.  I am grateful for my life.
What are you grateful for today?  Happy High Five Tuesday!!!

Happiness Challenge: Day 11


“Your mind is your instrument. Learn to be its master and not its slave.” ~ Remez Sasson

Mindfulness is not meant to remove us from the reality or responsibilities of everyday life, but rather places our feet firmly in the practical ground of experience. When we are under stress, the brain processes information through pathways that lead us to impulsive and reactive behavior. Mindfulness strengthens the brains resourceful pathways; it’s a way of traveling through our lives in peace.

#MindfulMonday Challenge: For the next 24 hours, PRACTICE PEACE. Try this exercise to strengthen your brains ‘peaceful pathways’ — Take a moment to step fully into this lion’s ‘shoes’ and connect with one word that describes your experience being the lion in the picture (i.e., strong, serene, peace, brave, still, etc.). For the rest of the day, if you begin to feel scattered or stressed or disconnected from the present, breathe deeply as you come back to this one empowering word. Let this mindful lion state expand within you, and invite it to grow forward into your week ahead, accompanying you through the inevitable stress that arises.

When you schedule a peace practice into your regular morning routine, the rest of your day’s to-do list (and overall well-being) will benefit as you approach each task mindfully!
My Reaction to today’s challenge:  Today I am home taking a day to find peace and rest. Last week I was granted a leave of absence from work, yet up until I was in the hospital, I still continued to work.  Why?  Because I didn’t want to let anyone down.   A life of go-go -go all of the time and thinking of others and taking care of others is not healthy for my body.  My body has been shutting down and telling me to slow down and take care of myself first.  I was in the admitted into the hospital on a medical emergency while driving, diagnosed with many things including malnutrition so today is day 4 for me of my healing process and taking care of me.  Regardless of what others think, I had my awakening last week in the hospital and realized that I can’t always worry about what others think, I need to find the me that I am comfortable with again and the anxiety will go away.  I have to stop looking over my shoulder and thinking people are judging me because of the actions they see vs knowing who I am.  Thank you Lord for this journey and being by my side, leading me in the direction you know I am meant to be experiencing.  Thank you for the many tests that have led me to where I am now.  I am humbled and excited to share my story with others so that we can all realize we are not alone.  Asking for help is humbling to those of us who always like to give.   Bless all of my close friends and family who know me and accept me as I am.  As a good friend tells me all of the time “You think too much” & “you overanalyze things” … just BREATHE!  Today I choose peace.

Happiness Challenge: Day 10


“You cannot think your way into your life purpose, it can only be felt with your heart.” 

#SoulfulSunday Challenge: What is one small shift you could make to live closer to your truth today? Set an intention to live closer to your truth for the next 24 hours. (Hint: If you’re not energized or excited by it, it’s not your souls true path)
Little by little one travels far. If you’re true to the small steps you take, your life will be truth ache free. And always remember, your path is beautiful and crooked, and just as it should be…
My Personal Message about today:  It’s been a rough week … it’s tough when you have the scare of a lifetime and realize all of the beautiful things around you and all of the people who are by your side, most  importantly He walks with me and guides me to know I am who I am and He loves me more now than ever before.  Thank you all for being my friend then and now.  #familyfirst #friendsforever Have a blessed day.  I know I will!  My song of the day for you is Michael W Smith “Friends” … listen to it if you haven’t heard of it.  #FriendsAreFriendForever

Happiness Challenge: Day 9

“The natural world communicates its profound messages: things are okay as they are; you are okay just as you are; simply relax and be present.”

Native Hawaiians have a beautiful concept called “mana,” which means the power of the elemental forces of nature are embodied in each of us. We evolved in nature, and studies show that natural settings – the beach, the wilderness, sitting under a tree- are restorative. In fact, your brain on nature, is happier :)
Day 10 Challenge: For the next 24 hours, adopt the pace of nature. Tune in to the rhythm of the natural world – go outside, look around you and realize the earth is breathing with you – let that life force flow through you. Extra challenge: Just for today, go off the grid. Perhaps even, *gasp*, turn off or leave your phone at home! Our devices are meant to connect us, but the truth is that every moment we spend checking our phone is a moment of our life, right in front of us, that we’ve disconnected from. Today, disconnect from your devices and reconnect with natural world, and yourself!